The Science of “Why We Click” With Certain People … and Not Others
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Why do you immediately click with some people while others just as inexplicably turn you off? Do people emit vibes? Is it possible to read a room? Are bad habits contagious?
Kate Murphy, author of the international bestseller You’re Not Listening, answers these and other fascinating questions in Why We Click, a new book that explores the emerging science and outsize impact of "interpersonal synchrony," a very consequential social dynamic most people have never heard of. Interpersonal synchrony is the seemingly magical, yet now scientifically documented, tendency of human beings to fall into rhythm and find resonance with one another.
Not only do we subconsciously match one another’s movements, postures, facial expressions and gestures; recent breakthroughs in technology have revealed we also sync up our heart rates, blood pressure, brainwaves, pupil dilation and hormonal activity. The result is that emotions, moods, attitudes and subsequent behaviors can be as infectious as any disease, and can have just as profound an impact on our health and well-being.
Join us as Murphy interweaves science, philosophy, literature, history, business management theory, pop culture and plenty of relatable, real-world examples to explain why being “in sync,” “in tune,” “in step,” and “on the same wavelength” are more than just turns of phrase. From the bedroom to the boardroom and beyond, Murphy reveals how our instinct to sync with others drives much of our behavior and how our deepest desires―to be known, admired, loved and connected―are so often thwarted in modern life.
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Commonwealth Club World Affairs of California
110 The Embarcadero
Taube Family Auditorium
San Francisco, CA 94105
United States
Kate Murphy
Journalist, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly; Author, You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters and Why We Click: The Emerging Science of Interpersonal Synchrony
Moderator: TBA
5:30 p.m. doors open & check-in
6–7 p.m. program
7 p.m. book signing reception
(all times Pacific Time)
COST
Members receive 30–50 percent discounts (not a member? Join)
In-person:
$25
$55 with a book
Free for Leadership Circle members and students (without a book)
Online:
$10
$40 with a book
Free for Leadership Circle members and students (without a book)